The Right Thing?

As parents, we try to make "the right" decision.  We try to see the big picture, outweighing the positives and the negatives.  Most of the time, the decision involves what we think is best for our children.  We have moved around because of coaching but in the past few years, the moves had other agendas, better education for our babies - better opportunity for them.  Were there coaching jobs attached  - yes - but ultimately the decisions were based on if my children were going to get a better education.  Our philosophy on education is a little different.  We think that children are smart or educated or like school based on what they get at home.  There's no educator that could "dumb down" my children.  We challenge them at home.  However, I have learned this year, that educators can begin to alter a child's personality and their perspective on how they see school.  I have one, and i won't say which bc he wouldn't like that too much, but i have one who has had a rough time this year.  And it breaks my heart.  Because he says things like "I'm just going to go unnoticed from now on.  i'm  not going to stand out for anything."  We have talked about how as Christians we are not meant to hide or go unnoticed.  And I know that life won't be easy for them all the time (even though I would dearly love it to be).  i know that we grow through our challenges and hardships.  I guess I just didn't think it would happen this early.